A mother sets six house rules for her children. These six house rules can help children develop good habits and excellent qualities, and such house rules are worthy of reference for all parents.
A mother’s house rules
1. Don’t touch other people’s things
Some time ago, there was a hot topic on Weibo asking: ”Why do young people resent having guests in their homes?”
The answers came quickly: “Have you ever experienced the anguish when seeing your client’s design that took half a month to complete being ripped up or even scribbled on by a child brought to your home by a relative?
“Have you ever experienced the meltdown of a child coming to your house and destroying your phone, tablet, or lip gloss where it needs to be thrown away on the spot?”
We don’t want our children to be labeled as “uncultured,” but have you ever noticed that even if your child is rambunctious and arrogant, it is very unlikely that anyone will let you know that your child has no manners?
Parents should set good house rules for their children from an early age, such as no one else’s things are to be taken without permission, rubbish should not be thrown on the ground, and not to make loud noises in public.
The best education is not about having high marks, it is an upbringing that is engraved into the bones (meaning one that has a deep impact on the child’s personal characteristics).
2. Don’t swear or behave indecently
In Shanghai Disney, a boy pushed in front of the queue to go on a play item and, after being discouraged by a member of staff, he verbally abused the adult.
The boy’s parents did nothing about his behavior, but they did order the people on the scene to delete the videos of the incident, shouting that it “violated privacy.”
Such unqualified children and parents are really ugly.
In order to improve the quality of children’s behavior, we must first improve the quality of parents. Therefore, this family rule is more like a rule for parents.
As parents, it is their responsibility and duty to educate their children and abide by the basic rules of being a human being.
3. Do not interrupt others
Some children have a habit of interrupting the teacher in class, standing up to answer before the teacher has finished speaking; some children like to interrupt when adults are talking about something and insist that adults play with them.
At any age, it is disrespectful to interrupt others.
So when your child does this, parents should tell their children that it is not acceptable to interrupt when communicating with others.
By reminding your child to change the way he or she speaks and teaching him or her to listen, you are actually teaching him or her to respect others.
A child who knows how to respect others will be able to walk a wider path in life.
4. Greet people you know
Our country has always been known as a “nation of manners.”
As the old saying goes: “If you don’t learn manners, you can’t stand.” Even now, with changing cultures and changing times, etiquette is still something worth learning and passing on.
The most basic courtesy is to greet someone you know first.
However, most of the time, parents only push or force their children to greet their uncles and aunties in order to prove that they are competent parents.
True manners are sincere and heartfelt, not just formal and perfunctory.
Parents need to be patient in guiding and nurturing, and more importantly, they need to set an example for their children.
If parents do a good job of treating others politely first, their children will naturally become modest and polite as they are taught by ear.
5. Take responsibility for wrongdoings
Every child can make mistakes or do the wrong thing, but parents deal with it in very different ways.
A young boy in America was once punished by his father for bullying a classmate. The boy was not allowed to ride the school bus and had to walk to school for a week. Every day of that week, the child ran ahead and his dad followed behind him no matter what.
After this incident, the child was acutely aware of two things: firstly, people have to pay for their mistakes. Secondly, my dad will not stop loving me just because I make a mistake.
In fact, it is not terrible to do something wrong; what is terrible is that parents cover up their mistakes and children know that they are wrong but do not improve.
Every mistake is a great opportunity for your child to learn to take responsibility.
It’s better to act to express your responsibility and let others feel your apology than to say “I’m sorry.”
6. Develop the habit of returning things to their original place
Putting things that you have used and books that you have read back in their place helps your child develop a sense of order and rules in the process of developing habits.
Help your child develop good habits, good habits that will drive positive changes that will benefit them for life.
But habits don’t develop overnight and require parents to correct their children’s behavior from an early age.
So don’t miss the best time to teach them.
Children who grow up with good habits are favored by others in their interpersonal relationships and go further in life.
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